Dating in today's society.

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Dating in today's society is pretty rough. Though from my point of view ie. an intelligent, introverted college student who needs to get out more, things might be a little skewed. A lot of people claim to be intelligent. But really, intelligence fucks a lot of things up. Ladies don't want to argue with an intelligent guy who has logically answered your question before you asked it. Not to say that I'm that kind of person, it's just that I can easily formulate a counter point to a disagreement I have from my own point of view that I thoughtfully break down to logical fundamentals. So what this looks like in real life, specifically high school when attended by a fairly happy introvert looks something like this:

Her "Hi."
Me "Hi."
Her "Are you new around here?"
Me *returns to work* "Yeah. Why?"
Her "Just wondering."
Me "Oh, OK."

Looking back I realize that had a actually pushed myself to not be so introverted I would have quickly realized that this was probably code for, "Wanna fuck?". But of course that's not what's explicitly defined here. An intelligent person looks at the context and makes a judgement. From that they can conclude the underlying sexual interest. However that assumes they have social experience, know how to use experience to break through the possibility of simple interest. All of which requires a non complacent introverted world view. Or simply an extroverted personality in this situation.

All of which are hard to obtain since introverted people don't just change to extroverted people without a lot of work.

Even today I find it just as hard to get to these underlying possibilities. Partially because that would require some sort of empathy factor with the people around me. I don't have such a thing because I do not identify myself with those around me. Being different then everyone I identify with few people. So thus I am left with apathetic approach to an empathetic, emotionally driven problem, wherein the desired outcome is an emotional involvement with a 3rd party all the while attempting to remove or pretend the apathy doesn't exist. Yet I continue to do this because it's lonely to be different.

Marriage in todays society

From my own personal experience marriage in today's society isn't all that great. Too many marriage end in divorce. Many men and women are cheating on their spouses.

When I see people who are getting married now. I see a lot of people getting married to their high school girlfriends or still dating their high school girlfriends from 3-4 years ago. This is really, really strange. Because this really shouldn't be the norm. Guys who are dating other girls in their college or else where are still having the same problem. They just can't get any girl because the dating market is shit.

I had been in a relationship where if I was depressed about the terrible dating market I would have probably married her even though it would not have been the best for me. I could have seen myself cheating because I was missing a sexual component that I had never experienced before. A friend of mind went back to dating his ex because wasn't able to get any girls to go out with him. He's settling right now.

It's so fucked up because I see a lot of guys settle. I see a lot of girls dating alright guys who should probably be dating some one else. It's just fucked up because guys can't get dates, women can't get decent dates, and the only people who are having any sort of positive reaction from this are the people who want unattached sex.

Not that there's anything wrong with unattached sex, it's just that some of us prefer attached sex for various reasons. Yet it's just so hard to get a relationship if you aren't talking to everyone and making a huge amount of friends. It's a very slow process and even slower when ladies refuse to help move the relationship along in the first stages.

National Novel Write Month

Updates have been pretty much non existent over the last month. I've been so busy lately but I think that will have to change so I can post a little more.

So each year for the past three years I've been writing a novel during the month of November for National Novel Write Month. I'm excited to do so again, and this time I feel like I'll really get into it this year and join fellow writers around my college campus.

I've got all of this month to think up how I'm going to write it, and the name of the characters. I'll probably need to go over some basic plots and characters as well. Nothing that I'll write down though. It's more of my style to think of something in my head and let it mutate into something I might find interesting enough to write about or write in the general area of. In the end I always write in a very amorphous fashion. The novel might start off with a certain premise, or novelty plot device I intend to use, but end up turning out completely different then what I expect. So far it's been working out fairly well. I wouldn't want any of my novels to be published because they aren't of the proper quality, I don't think they ever will be but you never know, dreams do come true sometimes.

I hope many other people decide to join.

http://www.nanowrimo.org/