Dating in today's society.

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Dating in today's society is pretty rough. Though from my point of view ie. an intelligent, introverted college student who needs to get out more, things might be a little skewed. A lot of people claim to be intelligent. But really, intelligence fucks a lot of things up. Ladies don't want to argue with an intelligent guy who has logically answered your question before you asked it. Not to say that I'm that kind of person, it's just that I can easily formulate a counter point to a disagreement I have from my own point of view that I thoughtfully break down to logical fundamentals. So what this looks like in real life, specifically high school when attended by a fairly happy introvert looks something like this:

Her "Hi."
Me "Hi."
Her "Are you new around here?"
Me *returns to work* "Yeah. Why?"
Her "Just wondering."
Me "Oh, OK."

Looking back I realize that had a actually pushed myself to not be so introverted I would have quickly realized that this was probably code for, "Wanna fuck?". But of course that's not what's explicitly defined here. An intelligent person looks at the context and makes a judgement. From that they can conclude the underlying sexual interest. However that assumes they have social experience, know how to use experience to break through the possibility of simple interest. All of which requires a non complacent introverted world view. Or simply an extroverted personality in this situation.

All of which are hard to obtain since introverted people don't just change to extroverted people without a lot of work.

Even today I find it just as hard to get to these underlying possibilities. Partially because that would require some sort of empathy factor with the people around me. I don't have such a thing because I do not identify myself with those around me. Being different then everyone I identify with few people. So thus I am left with apathetic approach to an empathetic, emotionally driven problem, wherein the desired outcome is an emotional involvement with a 3rd party all the while attempting to remove or pretend the apathy doesn't exist. Yet I continue to do this because it's lonely to be different.

Marriage in todays society

From my own personal experience marriage in today's society isn't all that great. Too many marriage end in divorce. Many men and women are cheating on their spouses.

When I see people who are getting married now. I see a lot of people getting married to their high school girlfriends or still dating their high school girlfriends from 3-4 years ago. This is really, really strange. Because this really shouldn't be the norm. Guys who are dating other girls in their college or else where are still having the same problem. They just can't get any girl because the dating market is shit.

I had been in a relationship where if I was depressed about the terrible dating market I would have probably married her even though it would not have been the best for me. I could have seen myself cheating because I was missing a sexual component that I had never experienced before. A friend of mind went back to dating his ex because wasn't able to get any girls to go out with him. He's settling right now.

It's so fucked up because I see a lot of guys settle. I see a lot of girls dating alright guys who should probably be dating some one else. It's just fucked up because guys can't get dates, women can't get decent dates, and the only people who are having any sort of positive reaction from this are the people who want unattached sex.

Not that there's anything wrong with unattached sex, it's just that some of us prefer attached sex for various reasons. Yet it's just so hard to get a relationship if you aren't talking to everyone and making a huge amount of friends. It's a very slow process and even slower when ladies refuse to help move the relationship along in the first stages.

National Novel Write Month

Updates have been pretty much non existent over the last month. I've been so busy lately but I think that will have to change so I can post a little more.

So each year for the past three years I've been writing a novel during the month of November for National Novel Write Month. I'm excited to do so again, and this time I feel like I'll really get into it this year and join fellow writers around my college campus.

I've got all of this month to think up how I'm going to write it, and the name of the characters. I'll probably need to go over some basic plots and characters as well. Nothing that I'll write down though. It's more of my style to think of something in my head and let it mutate into something I might find interesting enough to write about or write in the general area of. In the end I always write in a very amorphous fashion. The novel might start off with a certain premise, or novelty plot device I intend to use, but end up turning out completely different then what I expect. So far it's been working out fairly well. I wouldn't want any of my novels to be published because they aren't of the proper quality, I don't think they ever will be but you never know, dreams do come true sometimes.

I hope many other people decide to join.

http://www.nanowrimo.org/

Rough break up

I've detailed it in my personal journals as well to my family about me and my girlfriend breaking up.

It was really said, especially because we had a lot of love for each other. Yet that was the reason we broke up after only 10 months. She loved me so much that she didn't want to break up any later to make the pain that much worse. Her idea was that marriage would be in her future at some point and seeing as I was not going to marry anyone yet, she could not continue. It's understandable, and we broke up. I was pretty sad that it had to end so early when we both enjoyed ourselves and were having a good time.

Well it's over now, and the healing has begun. Already I'm pretty close to being over her. Just need to get started on finding some other ladies out there. Being a shy guy doesn't really help, so now I'm back to square one and some what frustrated again.

Death of the *chans

So every once in a while I check out the chans, manly 7chan and very rarely 4chan. All of the cool memes that came from them were amazing, and hilarious and the site just seemed really cool. That is until you actually go there. It's nothing but idiots talking about stupid things and trying to have fun but ruining it for everyone else. It's pretty sad really.

But I have a feeling before it became popular it might have had some cool "this has never been done before" kind of feeling which seems to have left it. Now it just seems that everyone is trying to recreate what they had as the openly secret society has become less secret and just open. And with that all the the things that made it cool were destroyed, people try to reclaim what they lost by leaving but that didn't work either. The newbies no longer created anything new and just repeated what already existed while the older generation had no new ideas. Guess I will have to find something more interesting then.

Being content

So recently I've noticed that I'm starting to become more and more content with the way things are. My patterns of thinking, daily life, love, everything. There just seems to be me going to look at the same old things that I have been doing for the past year or so.

Well I guess thats not exactly true, I may check facebook and the young turks videos every day like I have been since high school but there most definitely been a change with myself. I feel more confident in things I like and have pursued new hobbies. I've never really let go of my old hobbies, just pushed them out of the way for now. I've still gone back to them every once in a while.

The idea of being content with the way life is, for some reason, bothers me a lot. Not changing, and experiencing new things is something I really need. I don't know about many of you out there, but if I don't have something new and I start just doing the things I normally do simply out of habit then I lost the reason I started to do such things in the first place.

Internet Treasure Hunter

So as I was searching through the web looking for reasons why the body cannot heal itself any faster then usual I noticed something on the internet. Well, first of all searching for a complex topic like that will not always yield the right results. But they can also show you other more interesting or similarly interesting things. I accidentally ended up reading some information on pregnancy that I didn't know about. Since it's probably not all that interesting I won't post it but I think you can get the idea.

I've always realized that a person who knows how to intuitively search the internet can always return interesting fun results. Even if you don't get what you were looking for. It's a way to get the most out of the internet. When searching on the internet just remember that you are working with a computer. As an example, when looking for say, "Why people are strange", you can type it in directly or search "why people strange" or "strange people everywhere". Sometimes using a unique search term can cause your results to come back completely different.

Not only that, but knowing when to click on thing helps a lot too. For example, analyzing the pieces of info that comes along with the search can be extremely useful. Sometimes it can show you something interesting. Other times it can show you that that particular link is an ad or has no interesting content of value to you.

Hope this helps some people out there when searching. Happy searching!